Social Dilemma: My Wife Keeps Comparing Me to Her Ex And I Hate It

Today's 98.3 TRY Social Dilemma came from Rob and it's about his marriage. Here's his email: Hi Jaime. I'm hoping I can get some advice on how to handle this situation. My wife and I have been married for about two years, and everything is great except for one thing: she constantly compares me to her ex. It’s not always obvious, but she’ll make remarks like, “My ex used to handle this like this,” or “My ex would always come up with romantic surprises.” I’ve brought it up before, but she says she chose me and she’s just making observations and I shouldn’t take it personally. Still, it’s chipping away at my self-esteem. How can I address this with her without starting an argument or seeming like I’m insecure? Thanks for the input ~ Rob. Well, I always think it's wrong to compare things, at least outloud, to what you have now. It would make me crazy too if someone did that. I mean, you don't even want to do that at work because it feels like no one has moved on. Rob's wife needs to move past her ex and appreciate what is right in front of her, and I think that would be my advice to Rob. To kindly tell his wife that. What do you think? Let's help Rob out and let me know on the TRY Facebook page.