Today's Social Dilemma came from an email I received from Heather. This is what she wrote. Hi Jaime. Valentine's Day is coming up, and my husband and I have been together for about 13 years. I love him dearly and I know he loves me. However, every Valentine's Day, he gets me some pretty sexy lingerie from Victoria's Secret. Don't get me wrong, it's really nice, but now that I'm a little older, I feel like that gift is more for him than it is for me. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I'm not really into wearing sexy lingerie anymore. I'm a shorts and tshirt to bed kind of girl. And it's not like he's buying sexy underwear either. And I wouldn't want him too. I love him just the way he is. So, should I tell him that this isn't the best gift anymore, or do I just take the lingerie and pretty much in my head decide that it's kind of like a Valentine's Gift to him. The thing about that is, that I always do other stuff for Valentine's, like make a romantic dinner and get him something I know he really wants. For instance, this year it was a hard to find part for a car he's rebuilding. HELP. What do I do? I want to tell him the truth, but I don't want him to feel bad. What would you do. Thank so much Jaime. I love hearing what you and others talk about during the social dilemma so I hope you'll help me with this. Thanks again. Heather
Well, for me, I'm a big believer in honesty. I think that you should tell him that while it's a beautiful thought, it's just not for you anymore. I always say telling the truth is so much easier than trying to remember a lie. Plus when you're doing things for the wrong reasons it often comes out at the wrong time, like in the middle of a fight. So I say tell the truth. What do you think?