Social Dilemma - Is It Okay if Your Man Gets You Sexy Lingerie for V-Day

Today's Social Dilemma came from an email I received from Heather.   This is what she wrote.  Hi Jaime.  Valentine's Day is coming up, and my husband and I have been together for about 13 years.  I love him dearly and I know he loves me.  However, every Valentine's Day, he gets me some pretty sexy lingerie from Victoria's Secret.   Don't get me wrong, it's really nice, but now that I'm a little older, I feel like that gift is more for him than it is for me.   I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I'm not really into wearing sexy lingerie anymore.  I'm a shorts and tshirt to bed kind of girl.   And it's not like he's buying sexy underwear either.  And I wouldn't want him too.  I love him just the way he is.   So, should I tell him that this isn't the best gift anymore, or do I just take the lingerie and pretty much in my head decide that it's kind of like a Valentine's Gift to him.  The thing about that is, that I always do other stuff for Valentine's, like make a romantic dinner and get him something I know he really wants.  For instance, this year it was a hard to find part for a car he's rebuilding.   HELP.  What do I do?   I want to tell him the truth, but I don't want him to feel bad.  What would you do.  Thank so much Jaime.  I love hearing what you and others talk about during the social dilemma so I hope you'll help me with this.  Thanks again.  Heather

Well, for me, I'm a big believer in honesty.  I think that you should tell him that while it's a beautiful thought, it's just not for you anymore.  I always say telling the truth is so much easier than trying to remember a lie.  Plus when you're doing things for the wrong reasons it often comes out at the wrong time, like in the middle of a fight.  So I say tell the truth.  What do you think?

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