Today's social dilemma is a tough one. It has to do with money and friendship.
Good morning Jaime. My name is Alana and I want you to know I’m such huge fan of your show, I feel like you're a good friend. I’m emailing you for some advice if you have a few minutes. A few months ago I lent a single mom friend of mine $200 that she said she needed to pay for her child's afterschool project. She didn't want her child to be left out. Well since then I’ve seen she’s bought a Coach bag a new pair of Michael Kors shoes and eaten out several times. Meanwhile she hasn’t reached out to me at all. I’m wondering if I should reach out to her or just end our once really great friendship by never talking to her again? I thought un-friending her on Facebook and Instagram would let her know I’m not happy with her but I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m hurt and confused. Any suggestions? Thank you so much Jaime ~ Alana
Well, for me, I learned a long time ago, never let someone borrow money unless you expect not to get it back. So for me, if a friend needs to borrow money, and I can afford to do it, then I will do it, with hopes I get it back, but with no expectation that it will come back to me. I wouldn't end a friendship over cash. But I would talk with her and ask her if she has any intention of paying back the money. What do you think? How should Alana handle this?