Social Dilemma-Should You HAVE To Bring A Gift To A Second Wedding?

posted by Jaime Roberts - 

Today's social dilemma came from some friends of mine.   We are all involved with this, but they think my decision is wrong, so I said I would bring it to you.   Here's the situation.  We have some friends...well, more like closer acquaintances who are getting married in a couple of weeks.  While clearly we, me and several of my friends were not on the first round of wedding invites, we have now been invited to the celebration.  Now, these two people are in their early 50's, been living together for several years and are doing very well for themselves.  This is the second wedding for both of them.  The wedding/reception is going to be held at a very fancy place, though it's just going to be with appetizers, no meal, and a cash bar, with a band.   The wedding is at 7, so you could eat your dinner ahead of time.  However, my friends think that we shouldn't have to bring a gift to this wedding.   They think that because it's the second wedding, and because they've been living together for awhile, and have just about everything, that a gift isn't necessary.  Now these people aren't known for their generosity despite the fact that they're fairly wealthy, but I don't think that matters.  I think if you go to a wedding, you always bring a gift.  They say, nope, they already got gifts at their first wedding and since they've been together and have money they don't need anything from us.  So what is the appropriate gift?  Is the standard $$100-200 gift required?? Is it appropriate to ask straight up the gift expectation?? Should we make a donation in their name?  What would you do?  I've already decided to make a donation to a charity I know they've given to in the past in their name.   I think that's the best way to go.  They may not like it and want gifts but I think that's appropriate.  My friends say we shouldn't bring anything and this should just be a celebration of their wedding.   What do you think?  Let me know on the 98-3 TRY Facebook page.  

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