Social Dilemma-Is It Okay to Discipline the Neighbors Kids?

Today's social dilemma came from a grandma who watches her grandchildren everyday after school. She did ask me to point out that she's a young grandma. She has a problem with some of the neighbor kids that also come over to her house to play. Here's the email Hi Jaime, my name is Carol, and I listen to your social dilemma every day. I think I have an interesting one. Every day after school I take care of my daughter's kids. I am a young grandma. My grandchildren are seven and nine. I love being able to spend time with them. There is another family here in the neighborhood with kids the same age that go to school with my grandkids so from time to time, they come over to play. All sounds good, right? But here's the problem. The two kids from the other family have no manners. If they want something in my kitchen, they go right in and get it. No asking at all. My grandkids know they have to ask for a snack, but these kids go right into the pantry. And they make a mess going through everything, leaving stuff all over the floor. I think it's very disrespectful and I don't want my grandkids to think it's okay to act like that either here or at someone else's house. But do you think it's okay for me to say something. Can I discipline the neighbor kids? I want to teach them manners, but I also don't want their mom or dad to think I'm overstepping. I can't wait to hear what you and your wonderful listeners think. I always get such great insight from your dilemmas Jaime. Thank you so much for your time. I'll be listening. Have a good day ~ Carol Well, personally, I think it's okay to discipline the neighbor kids. I don't mean anything harsh, but I think it would be fine to say to them, "in this house, we don't behave like that." Maybe the parents don't know the kid are being rude, or maybe their parents don't care about that, but I think it's fine to say that there we all follow rules in our house. I don't think that's too harsh. What do you think? Let's help Carol out. Let me know on the TRY Facebook page.