Today's 98.3 TRY Social Dilemma came from Doug and it's about contacting his wife. Here's his email: Hi Jaime. Instead of calling my wife at work or distracting her when she's driving, I have occasionally used the Find Device app to ping her phone location, maybe once or twice a week. She works full time, and sometimes has trips to take by car. Her schedule is very random, so I never have firm time frames.Since I am ordinarily in charge of when to begin dinner and to schedule any other post-work plans when we both have time, it's nice to know when she's on her way home, and a quick ping let's me know when she'll be here without disturbing her. She recently let me know in no uncertain terms that she felt this practice was intrusive. She said I could text to ask her, but she misses texts frequently, especially if she's on the road.To avoid an argument, I simply agreed not to do it anymore if it made her feel that way. However, am I losing my mind in thinking that if a spouse sees their partner using the Find Device app to ping their phone, it's a sign of affection and not one of distrust or control? I do it because I look forward to her company, and want to please her by having certain things ready when she gets home. That explanation did not fly - "I hate it" was the response. I'd like to ask...if you saw your loved one pinging your location, would you lean toward "Oh, they're thinking of me!" OR...would you feel as though you were being stalked and/or having your privacy invaded? Please help, Doug. This is so interesting. I admit, I would lean more towards not wanting my spouse to use that app unless it was an emergency. I find it a little creepy myself. I also think that Doug's wife needs to understand why he's doing it and perhaps make sure she responds in a timely manner to his texts. But I admit, I wouldn't like it, unless it was an emergency, but that's just me. What do you think? Let's help Doug out and let me know on the Jaime in the Morning Facebook page.
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